7 Questions – Poppy Ann

Welcome Poppy Ann, a trans woman, grandmother, former British solider, and current sailboat resident.


1) What’s your name? Chosen or otherwise.

My Name is now Miss Poppy Ann Lynagh-Smith. The ‘Poppy’ part was chosen by my daughter, who said it will make it easier on my grandchildren as they did know me as ‘pirate popps’ due to my living on a sail boat. I added ‘Ann’ as it was my sister’s second name. She died at age 21, so I took it in memory of her.

2) Who has been most supportive of your transition?

Up to now everyone I have met has been very supportive. Only my ex-wife and son are not so, but it has been a very large shock to him and I understand how hard it must be for him to see his dad become a woman. My ex-wife understands what I am doing but wants nothing to do with my changing. My cross-dressing was one of the reasons she decided to leave me to start with. All my friends have said either “We have treated you as female for years”, or “It’s about time! We expected you to do this years ago.”

3) What do most enjoy about your life since beginning transition?

That I can now dress and act how I have wanted to all my life, that I no longer need to hide who I am.

4) Who are your trans role models?

I don’t have any role models. I do not know anyone who has gone through transition before me.

5) What change(s) would you most like to see in the world?

For people to be able to dress and act as they want to without any trouble or made to feel they are wrong for doing it. As long as it does not hurt anyone else, they should be able to do what they want and that other people should just accept them for who they are and not try to change them so everyone is the same.

6) What are you doing to make those changes happen?

I am very open about who I am and what I am. I don’t try to hide who I am or what I have gone through to get here.

7) Tell us something, anything, special and unique about you.

Not a lot to tell. I served in the British army for 12 years but was injured in an accident which damaged my back and for the last 11 years have been living on a sail boat out in the Caribbean sailing around the islands. For the last 8+ years I have worn skirts or dresses and just told people that I feel better that way, and most people have been ok with it. I never tried to hide who I was but I have to admit I never understood what i was until recently. When I suggested to my doctor that I thought I may be transgendered, he told me he knows I am, and that was the first time I had considered it seriously.

Related posts:

2 comments for “7 Questions – Poppy Ann

  1. Dannie
    April 4, 2014 at 12:10 pm

    I love your story in that it is similar to my own. However, no one in my family, from wife to grandchildren are aware I am Trans only my wife knows and she is struggling with a great deal. I would appreciate any advise you might be able to share with me.

    LOVE Dannie xoxoxo

    • Poppy Ann
      January 19, 2015 at 7:40 am

      Hi Dannie, sorry it has taken me so long to reply but this is the first time i remember seeing your question.

      For my ex wife it was very hard for her to come to terms with the way i am and in the end it finished our marriage after 24 years as she left me for a friend of ours she said the main reason was due to the way i dressed as i would always try to buy clothes that were female but in a sort of male style and in the end she told me we look like a lesbian couple and she was the butch one which i did not believe there was no way she looked butch.

      also at the time ski pants (stretch pants with tapered legs and stirrups) were in style which i loved and wore with short ankle boots with a rolled top along with long arm body suits and a tweed jacket lots of people said i looked great and no one had said anything to either of us but in the end she decided she had had enough and left so watch out for your wife it must be very hard for partners to accept people like us as a partner most of the problem is due to they expected us to be macho man and when we are not they do not like it especially if you start to get good comments about your clothing as that is challenging their femininity, it is funny that out of most mammals we as humans are different to most others as it is the female who tries to have the better looks and the male tends to be plain if you look at most birds it is always the male who has the fancy feathers and even the king of the jungle is the male who had the large amount of hair and the peacock has the nice display of feathers and the peahen has none.

      when i came out to the children they were both ok with the way i was my son said it would take a while for him to get use to it but it did not bother him and the same with my daughter, i believe if someone loves you now that they will still love you later even partners even though they do not like it they will still love you you have not changed the person just their thoughts of your gender, for people who say they want nothing to do with you now it is due to what they think their friends will think not what they think they are scared of people thinking that they must be different themselfs if they have friends who are.

      i think for everyone who believes they are transgender they should talk to their doctor about getting an appointment with their local gender clinic i know it is hard to tell someone else how they feel if you cannot tell your normal doctor then try one who you do not know, also i think it better if you could find one who is new to the profession and a female is another help as they seem to react better to you than a male one does, the reason for going to a new doctor is that they most likely have been trained how to treat you and what you will be going through.

      for me when i told my doctor who was a temporary one who was just starting in the profession he knew what to do he did not just try to brush it off he gave me some information on what it was and how it was affecting me and also arranged an appointment at the local gender clinic which was only a month later which from what i have heard from others was very unusual getting one so quick i have heard tails of others having to wait for an appointment with the local psychiatrist and then have to have been under them for up to a year before they ask for an appointment for you at the gender clinic.

      So i have waffled on and not really given you any helpful advice except tell your doctor and try to get an appointment with the gender clinic.

      it is nice to have someone else tell you you are transgender and that it is not a mental illness it is just the way your brain developed in your first few months of development and well before you were born and also there is no way you can change or that they can change the way you are your gender is fixed before your sex is fixed and for many men it has been a fight for all their lives trying to come to terms with who they are.

      good luck with sorting it out for me it was as if a huge weight had been lifted of my shoulders when the doctor told me that i am transgender i know it is so hard to accept for most men but it is easier than killing yourself which is what a lot of people do.

      regards Poppy Ann.
      if you reply to this and want to chat i am happy to send you my email address.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *