7 Questions – Brin/Paul
Two new loves. First, National Coming Out Day. All day long I was seeing earnest, witty, and touching posts by beautiful trans, gay, and queer people, as well as good allies. This annual event also happened to inspire the submission below. Second, I love that I learn something new from every submission to We Happy Trans.
Brin is bigender, an expression I wasn’t aware of until now. In this video Brin also appears as Paul, just as she does in her life. Until I saw this, it never occurred to me that someone who feels equally at home in both genders could successfully create a life that allows them to move so freely between both. If you’d like to learn more, please check out Brin’s site, Bigender.net, a safe place for people to explore their own bi-gender expression, and see more videos on her YouTube channel.
Thanks for coming to play in our little sandbox Brin!
I’m glad to play. Your prompts are pretty damn perfect as conversation starters. Thank you so much for posting this, too! It seems I’ve inspired a rash of new tags as well – I hope they fill up fast!
To everyone else, I’m sorry that it’s so long. I do hope it’s worth the time, though!
Thank you for your thoughtful response to the 7 questions.
I especially resonate with the idea of being 1 person with 2 presentations.
Congratulations on ‘fatherhood.’ It is, for me, the most defining part of my life.
I ‘m not sure how I feel about the pendulum. While I present as ‘either/or,’ I feel ‘one&both’ almost all of the time.
Like you, I feel happy in the body I was born in, But rather than identify as ‘bigender,’ I think I feel omnigendered, in that I don’t feel swings in my identity.
I feel comfortable, however, with expressing the two poles uniquely. Am not sure yet what that says about me . . .
I am just starting out on this journey, but feel more authentic no matter what my gender expression is simply because, as you said, I am ‘out.’
The ‘fear of being found out’ is gone. It feels like flying, doesn’t it?!?!
Thank you again for your thoughtful words. Allie
Just want to pop in to thank Brin. Although I eventually discovered that I am mongendered and a trans man, Brin’s community at bigender.net offered a safe space for me to question, meet others who felt similarly, and see if transition was really right for me at all (a big fat YES). We could all use a place like that
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Brin was the first Trans person I ever met back when I first began my transition. Paul helped me use the “Big Boy’s Bathroom” in public AND took me to get my first “Big Boy Haircut”… without both Brin and Paul’s help, I would have been so lost back then.