7 Questions – Bailey Jay
I don’t think this video needs any introduction. Instead I’ll later do a follow up post addressing some of the issues Bailey raises here, as well as more details on the projects we’re starting. Big thanks to Bailey for sharing this exclusively with We Happy Trans. Enjoy!
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Need more? Here’s two hours of Bailey and I chatting on Third Gender Radio (see below for an index and link). Check out all the episodes here.
Links:
Original post
Savannah & Erica on Buck Angel
Anderson Cooper segment
Trans Love Stories
WTF Trans Dating
Index:
- Opening – 6:00: announcing new show – “Sugar & Spice”, sex lives;
- 6:00: details about Shemalia Film Fiasco;
- 11:00: Ambassadors to Tranny Land, race issues, NPR;
- 20:00: Anderson Cooper segment on woman’s claim that Finasteride made her trans, media representations;
- 30:00: hormones;
- 35:00: trans people judging each other;
- 42:00: the word “tranny”, overlap between drag & trans communities;
- 59:00: porn;
- 1:05:00: Buck Angel;
- 1:19:00: language policing, “crazy”;
- 1:34:00: the Presidential election, health insurance, trans leaders;
- 1:51:00: totally random stuff, how Bailey & her husband met, chasers.
I so agree with you on the issues with the infighting and waste of positive energy on the minutia of terminology and names. You have the right to do anything with your body you want. Go you!
It’s my birthday today and, sincerely, you, beautiful Bailey, just made my day with your candid video. I feel you. All the best.
I’m glad to see you found a happy corner of life. I’m still stuck in limbo where I can’t transition. Good luck to you!
no… thank you! that was not just an entertaining video about bailey jay but also a beautiful plea for the trans community to step back and maybe show a little compassion for there fellow trans people and toward the community as a whole.
Thank you. I needed this. I’ve felt very invalidated as of late, and I need to be able to say that I’m not wrong for being the way I am. I am proud of being a freak.
Awesome video, she is a very cool person. It sounds like she’s found a lot about who she is and seems comfortable in her skin and happy.
Bailey, you are such a cutey and so telegenic. It is wonderful that you are, as you say, “…growing-up…” Living in upstate NY, married and clearly forming a mature mind shows that you are clearly on the right path. I expect that you will join the local Rotary Club soon.
I hope that you will set a great example by quitting smoking. Transwomen who are on estrogen have nearly a 100% chance of contracting cancer when they also smoke. It isn’t speculation, or a few studies anymore, the preponderance of evidence proves that if you smoke and are on estrogen supplements, you will most likely contract cancer, and many of our sisters will die from this dreaded disease. Bailey, you could become the spokeswoman for quitting smoking; this is how you may serve the transgendered community.
On another subject: No transgendered person is any less of a woman, if they elect to retain their birth genitalia in their original form. The surgery is still so ghastly and crude. I think that we will continue to see more transwomen who are openly comfortable with keeping their genitalia without modification, and as we are now seeing, increased acceptance by general society, of those who do.
Clairese, don’t you think it’s a might offensive to trans women who do feel the need to have surgery to call it ‘ghastly and crude’? I absolutely agree that it’s not a requirement, and that if someone is happy with and can accept their birth genitalia, then that’s a good thing (and society needs to adapt to accept it), but some people simply cannot tolerate the dysphoria their natal genitalia causes them. Making those people feel worse about themselves is not a good way of making pre- or non-op trans people feel better.
Also, Bailey, that was a wonderful video, thankyou for making it and sharing.
Bailey, you’re an awesome person!
Wow! That was really fantastic and inspirational. Also, very brave. I appreciated your discussion of the grey areas of gender identity and mention of Kate Bornstein who was a huge inspiration for me as well. And I especially appreciated your stance on infighting in our community. This is incredibly damaging and needs to stop. If we can’t figure out a way to come together instead of tearing each other apart, to support each other, we will never be able to make the change we want to see. Together we are strong.
More than anything though, I was touched by your personal candor and openess about your own fears and insecurities. It is a nicely humanizing touch that help to underline your points about growth and community. All in all, as the original Miss Trans New England 2009, I heartily approve and thank you for being you!
Slainte!
Lorelei
Wow, you are awesome. Not just beautiful on the outside and showing more comfort in your own skin than a lot of transwomen I have known. The kind of transwomen who would probably hate on you for what you do for a living. I would have maybe been judgmental about that work too not so long ago but I don’t care now. You are cool and count me as one transwoman who thinks that you are a good influence on me. Because what you have to say from your heart and experience matters and I think you are very smart too. I hope you are blessed with happiness for the rest of your life. Thanks for sharing this.
“The more you like yourself, the less you´re hurting others.”
Good stuff Bailey Jay. Competitiveness and comparing yourself to others really is pointless.
You are pure awesomeness
I’m going to spending thanksgiving by myself, but this video made me feel like I just got a nice long hug from Bailey Jay and now I don’t feel so alone.
Awww, what an awesome person!
I dont see the gender thing,you are neither man nor woman. all i see is WOWman. beauty isnt always about the physical attributes. You have proven its all about attitude.keep on doing what you are doing..Dont change a thing about the way you are. after all you see the world much better than people to whom of which are not gender challenged.
You are a great hero to me. This video was incredibly inspiring and has increased my already large amount of respect for you ten fold.
The infighting is a terrible thing all over the LGBT community. As a Bi male(by birth) I have been told on many occasions by other gay men that my sexuality doesn’t exist. I have been told I am just on my way to being gay. To have who I am denied by the people in a community already so tormented by disrespect and discrimination is incredibly painful. The last thing we all need to be doing is criticizing each other, we get enough of that from the outside.
Your frankness and honesty took my breathe away and I love you and thank you for it. I think we are all a bit self conscious and self loathing. Your call for a more internally supportive community is exactly what we need.
Thank you Bailey.
Thank you.
Many of my thoughts would only echo what’s been said by other commenters. I have to add something though, since how you carry yourself and what you say makes me cry happy tears. You are so very much you, and become moreso every day. While we’re on different paths, you inspire me to do the same.
Many thanks and much love!
I wish I could have been so self aware when I was so young. She is an eloquent speaker for all people who feel like strangers in their own skin, not just the trans community.
bailey i think you are so amazing i am not trans i am just an average girl and what you say about anxiety and self consciousness helps me so much thanks bailey we love you
As a “fan” of Bailey’s I have to say that this is the best of Bailey I’ve seen. She’s smart/funny/thoughtful/sexy/talented and bound for bigger and better things in the future. I’d love to see her on Letterman – I think she’d be a great guest. Thanks for giving her this platform to express her thoughts.
You come across as honest, sensitive, warm, fearless, self-aware …. I could go on.
You’re an inspiration. There should be more like you (in every sense).
Watergipsy
Bailey you are a beautiful person inside as well as out.
my dear miss Bailey , i just looked at the video , and i must say you are a BEAUTIFUL person.
What happend to the radio show?
Thanks for all you do, and best wishes with your own journey.
Mar
Mar,
Sugar & Spice has replaced Third Gender Radio. We’re committed to making it a regular show, but with the holidays and a few other major projects, we haven’t had a chance to record E2. We’re hoping to find a time in the next two weeks. Stay tuned!
Jen
I would just like to say bailey You have helped me to continue my passion and personality that makes me feel discriminated against, your honesty changed me and to hear you talk in the face of fear you have served me…if only one person you have helped the greater good, thank you. I only hope that i can gain as much confidante and comfort as you, thanks for the ramble
you must be so blessed to have a husband that understands. I hope your personal projects takes off so you don’t have to do as much adult work.
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Great “interview”! Bailey Jay is just gorgeous inside and out.
Wow! I have always liked Bailey and thought she was adorable but it is so refreshing to hear how healthy and smart she is. Bailey, you are a great role model for transgirls, even old ones like me! Keep doing what you do. Much Love, Tina